I feel the most ease and coherence, when the situation is clear and I have the feeling, there are no conflicting interests. That can be with close friends, in a work context or in a shop with the sales assistent. If I have the feeling that someone wants something, but is not talking about it, or harbours some kind of resentment, but doesn’t voice it, it gets difficult. Or sometimes, when I am not yet clear what I want from someone or how I want to position myself, it also gets less eas-y.